Meditation Demystified, Top 4 Myths that kept you away from Meditation

In today’s day and age,Meditation is a term commonly used everywhere….There has been a lot of mystery, inaccuracy, contemplation, assumptions and loud thinking around this term…   That is why there is  much confusion about how to practice it correctly. Some people use the word meditate when they mean thinking or contemplating; …some use it to address diaphragmatic breathing or deep breathing…while others use it to refer to daydreaming or visualizing… However, meditation isn’t either of these…

What is Meditation?

Meditation is a precise technique of disengaging from the Conscious Mind to attain a state of consciousness that is totally different from the normal waking state. Click To Tweet

There are different purposes of Meditation and everyone’s objective of Meditation can differ…Similarly there are different types of Meditations as well…There are a lot of misconceptions and myths of Meditation that prevent people from understanding and experiencing it with desirable results…

Here are top 4 myths surrounding Meditation that I came across while teaching or speaking about Meditation.

Myth #1 – Meditation is a Religious or Spiritual practice

Truth :

Meditation is an activity which takes you to heightened Consciousness through your Mind Click To Tweet

It is a practice that transports you from the  noisy chatter of the mind into a place of stillness and silence. It doesn’t require any specific spiritual or religious belief, and many people of many different religions practice meditation without any conflict with their current religious beliefs…. Religious, Spiritual. Agnostics and Atheists can all meditate alike because it is simply exploring deeper levels of Consciousness using your Mind….


Myth #2 – Meditation is difficult and not everyone’s cup of tea


This myth is rooted in the image of meditation as an esoteric practice reserved only for seers,saints and spiritual adepts. In reality, when you  have guidance from an experienced teacher, meditation is easy and fun to learn.  The techniques can be as simple as focusing on the breath or silently repeating a mantra. One reason why meditation may seem difficult is that you try too hard to concentrate, you’re overtly attached to results, or you’re not sure you are doing it right…Meditation in the right understanding and open mind is not difficult and it will change you as a person in ways you have never imagined…


Myth #3 – Meditation requires you to quiet your Mind


This is the most common myth about meditation because of which most people give up on Meditation. Meditation isn’t about stopping your thoughts or trying to empty our mind – both of these practices only create stress and resistance. It’s the natural state of Mind to think and if you force the Mind to stop thinking, it will perceive it as death and that’s what puts it into so much pressure with this wrong working…We can’t stop or control our thoughts, and we should never try to do that. Meditation is all about disengaging in your thoughts by being a mere observer of your thoughts and not stopping your thoughts…The objective is to increase the gap between these thoughts and stay there for as much time as comfortable….This gap between thoughts is pure Consciousness….


Myth #4 – Meditation gives magical, unearthly,transcendental experiences


Most people think they would experience visions, see colors, levitate, hear something, or glimpse enlightenment when they meditate.  Although you can have a variety of wonderful experiences when you meditate, including feelings of bliss and oneness, these aren’t the purpose of the practice for the common man. The real benefits of meditation are what happens in the other hours of the day when we’re going about our daily lives. When we emerge from our meditation session, the stillness and silence of the practice spills over all our activities, allowing us to be more creative, compassionate, centered, and loving to ourselves and everyone we encounter.

Meditation is a lifestyle change with long term benefits…A small 5 minute practice to begin with will create a lot of favourable changes to the core of your being….

Next in the Meditation series would come a blow up of the basic Mindfulness Meditation for beginners …



5 Secrets of Your Conscious Mind, You didn’t know

Mind: You know how much I take care of you

Me: Really? How?

Mind: Whenever someone offends you…I keep playing it to you again and again and again till you drop dead…so that you make an entire villian out of the one who offended you (maybe just once) and steer clear from him

Mind: Whenever you go on a diet, I tell you “It’s okay, just a blueberry cheese cake will not hurt”

Mind: Whenever your alarm clock buzzes early in the morning to wake you up for exercising, I tell you , It’s okay, doze off…yesterday was a tiring day…

This used be my regular conversation with my mind till one day I consciously decided not to be game to the lies that my mind told me…In consistently defying its orders and digging deeper, I uncovered the patterns of our mind to which we unconsciously fall prey to…Mind can be our biggest ally or our biggest enemy if left on its own…Here are some facts about the Mind you need to know to make the best possible from your own Mind.

1.) Your Mind thinks You are your Mind

Your Mind thinks your identity, image,what you do, what happens to you is all your Mind…Your Mind is a part of you..You are not your Mind….Your Mind can  tell you umpteen stories which will make sense to you only if you consciously choose to buy them…Your Mind thinks it is super intelligent and responsible for running your Life…But your Life doesn’t run only on logic…it has emotions and feelings which are beyond the Mind’s purview….Look at Google for example….It gives you results based on your keywords… If google starts giving you advice,would you follow it singlehandedly?

The next time your Mind tells you somethings…affirm:

I am not my Mind...I filter all information my Mind gives me and then come to a conclusion Click To Tweet


2.) Your Mind thinks loss of Control means death

Your Mind…all the time wants to control everything…which it obviously cannot but it believes it can…It’s afraid of uncertainty…For your Mind…uncertainty is Death…hence it will scare you to death if you decide to step out of the predictable comfort zone that is within the control of your Mind…Your Mind thinks Change is dangerous because the outcome is unknown…Mind loves to work in repetitive patterns because the outcomes become easily predictable then…

Your Mind believes any new things you try beyond its control will harm you….therefore it gives a strong resistance to any new things you plan to work on , assuming it is protecting you from the harm an uncertain outcome will cause…

Your Mind believes- Safety is more important than Progress Click To Tweet

It doesn’t care if what it prompts you to do is for your good or bad…All that is important is control over the outcome…

The next time when a voice in your head snaps… don’t do that…recheck if it’s your intuition or your Mind playing games over loss of control…


3.) Your Mind thinks Anger is the best defense

Do you realise …most of the times when you get angry it’s mostly because you do not wish to confront some reality about your own self…Your mind is your protector…it’s primary function is to protect you ..this is a survival mechanism and a part of human evolution…It tries its best to distract you from confronting anything that will cause you pain… and it thinks anger is the best distraction….yes it is….it quickly cuts you off from the root cause and shifts your focus on something more external…

The next time when you get angry,ask yourself…Am I genuinely angry or am I trying to escape from some inner confrontation…


4.)  Your Mind thinks your Happiness depends on external conditions

Your Mind is your protector…It wants to protect you at any cost …even if that means keeping you stuck in your comfort zone…controlling every thing…and so on…similarly it doesn’t let you experience happiness unconditionally….Why? Because Happiness is always accompanied by an irrational fear of “this wont last”…

Happiness itself doesn't make you feel safe...the anticipation of Happiness does... Click To Tweet

Thus your Mind keeps creating conditions to base your Happiness on…Whereas Happiness is your natural state…its intrinsic…But Happiness and Safety do not coexist subconsciously…You have to consciously work to make them coexist…

Happiness is a natural state...a conscious decision,it is not extrinsic,nor is it conditional... Click To Tweet


5.) Your Mind thinks Everything matters

Your Mind has a strong need to control everything to keep you safe…In this attempt it just doesn’t let go of anything…it overthinks and ruminates just about everything…But in the long run ….Nothing Matters…yes…Nothing Matters…The thing that robs you of your peace today might simply not matter at all tomorrow…That offense that you took in someone’s behavior…does it really matter or your Mind is making it matter for you? A lost job, extra weight, a broken heart…will they matter in the long run…And if they matter only till you consciously change the situation, are they worth investing so much of time, emotion and energy on?

Next time you find yourself obsess over something you can die for or kill for…Ask yourself…Is this just a matter of time?..Would it really matter after this time has passed…or in the long run?

Congratulate yourself on your new discovery…after all its just your good old Mind trying to protect you…Pat your back for you have been doing excellent to the best of your capabilities…Smile and tell yourself…Nothing Matters…exhale deeply and rejoice in the moment as these words sink in…





How can your Mind manifest your Reality? – I (The new belief system)

What is reality?

Most of you would say ..that which is perceived through five senses…most people rely exclusively on their sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell to interpret their reality as these five senses allow us humans to interact with and experience the physical world.

But can you solely rely on your five senses to give you an absolute sense of reality?

What are your senses telling you about right now? That you are sitting still, motionless and reading this…whereas the fact is you and everything on the Earth are rotating at the speed of  110,000 kilometers per hour (110 million meters per hour) around the sun…isn’t it?

In Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy series, Douglas Adam says,”The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”…

Sounds weird…but its true…Similarly the age old example of a half filled glass which explains the coexistence of the reality of it being half filled and half empty also speaks of multitude of reality…Thus Reality is nothing but perception…perception which could easily extend beyond that prompted by the five senses…

All this should convince your rational and skeptic mind of the possibility of a world beyond the perception of your five senses to exist..With your rational mind on your side you would now be more open to the idea that in this wonder world beyond your senses…

Through your thoughts...Life happens by you...Life doesn't happen to you... Click To Tweet

Another question…Look at your belongings…Weren’t they real in your thoughts before they manifested in your reality?Wasn’t that smartphone real in your thoughts with colour and specifications before you actually bought it?

Everything around your experience is somehow a resultant of your thoughts... Click To Tweet

The question that pops up in your mind now is…If thoughts really created reality wouldn’t we all just sit..think think think and boom!!! came our desired reality…Yes thoughts create reality but it isn’t as simple as it sounds and needs a paradigm shift in the belief system…Manifestation with your mind is a skill and like all other skill it needs a thorough understanding,proper mindset and practice to be acquired…The basic requirement to learn to manifest is to

Open your mind to the possibility of reality being beyond your five senses and that your dominant thoughts create your reality

Now that you have successfully opened your mind to the possibility of your thoughts creating your own reality…Let’s look at the new belief system needed to be instilled to learn manifesting

1.)Your Mind is a Universe itself

This means…everything in the physical realm has its origin in the  Mind first..There is a single, intelligent Consciousness, all powerful, all knowing, all creative and omnipresent – the Universal Mind. Our Mind is an extension of this Universal Mind in our physical experiences on the earth…

Didn’t buy it? Look at it this way….Our physical bodies are made up of DNA from our parents…That’s what biology says…Similarly our Mind draws from the single source the Universe and is very much a part of it  …says Quantum Physics…

Your Mind isn't just a home to your mental chatter.It's a potent powerhouse of thoughts creating your reality Click To Tweet

Belief 1 – Your Mind is a dangerously powerful tool to manifest your reality with your thoughts.

2.)Universe speaks Energy

Everything is Energy…Humans, animals, plants, stars, galaxies..everything visible and invisible is energy…Whatever you see in your physical world is simply energy vibrating at varying frequencies that your five senses interpret as something solid or tangible…Similarly your thoughts are also energy…Positive thoughts vibrate at a higher frequency and negative ones at lower frequency…A positive thought creates positive experiences and negative thought creates negative experiences in your reality…

Your thoughts aren't just the blabber in your mind...they are the source from which your reality is created Click To Tweet

Belief 2 – Your thoughts,  positive or negative..are pure energy and the concentrated form of this energy i.e. your dominant thoughts create your reality based on the frequency they are vibrating…

3.) Emotions as pointers

An average human Mind thinks about 60,000- 80,000 thoughts per day…It is not possible to consciously filter each and every negative thought….Does that mean you’ll manifest mixed outcomes(from positive and negative thoughts) without having control over it? No…This is where emotions come into play…A thought focused on for a long time triggers an emotion…An emotion is pronounced enough to make you aware of it…Thus an emotion is sustained energy of a thought…A strong positive emotion indicates the dominant thought being positive and vice versa…Experts say

Staying in a particular emotional state for more than 17 seconds triggers manifestation of the dominant thought that led to the emotion Click To Tweet

Belief 3:  An emotion is not only a state of mind but also a powerful indicator of what are your dominant thoughts and what kind of Reality are you creating…

Key takeaways:

1.) Mind is the powerhouse of thoughts

2.) Thoughts good or bad if focused repeatedly on become dominant thoughts and…create corresponding reality

3.)An average human mind thinks 60,000-80,000 thoughts per day…

4.) A dominant thought when focused on… triggers an emotion

5.) An emotion guides you if your dominant thought is positive or negative thereby indicating what kind of experiences will you manifest in your reality

This is the natural state of manifestation…This is obstructed by resistance, limiting beliefs, mental blocks, stuck energy etc.which exclusively will be discussed in the upcoming post

Stay tuned for How can your Mind manifest your Reality? – II, where we’ll discuss about the Mind as fertile grounds for manifestation – the Conscious and the Subconscious Mind…



6 Revelations that blew my mind

A few years back…my life hit the rock bottom…My fairytalish rose-tinted view of Life shattered and I slipped into the Victim Mode which screams Why Me?….I got no answers…Determined to find the answers…I kept  reading whatever I thought would lead me to an answer….Neck deep into books, I came across a beautiful excerpt that made me feel…Yes!! This makes some sense…The excerpt said ..

Testing times do not end till you learn the lesson you are supposed to learn from them.... Click To Tweet

It was then that my question shifted from Why me? to What is this Time teaching me?….In this journey I had a few breakthrough AHA moments which totally rocked my world and changed the way I perceive reality.They presented themselves as truths which were crucial for me in my journey from being a compulsive thinker to a Conscious Creator…

Maybe you have already had some of them or would be having them soon…


  1. You are not your thoughts.

The first time I read that, I wondered if Alan Finger had lost his mind… How can I and my thoughts be different from each other? I had taken for granted that the blabber in my head was “me”

Now..I see quite clearly that life is nothing but passing experiences, and thoughts are just one more of those experiences. Thoughts are no more fundamental than smells, sights and sounds. Like any experience, they arise in your awareness and have power over you, if you choose to engage in them

If you can observe your thoughts just like you can observe other objects, who’s doing the observing? And what is being observed? Are they both the same?


2. It’s only the present Moment.

This is the most important thing I’ve ever learnt… Nobody has ever experienced anything that wasn’t part of a single moment unfolding. That means life’s only challenge is dealing with the single moment you are having right now. Before I acknowledged this, I was constantly either replaying my past or trying to figure out my whole future life at once…

The present moment is the only point of contact with life... Nobody can deal with the past or future, because, both only exist as thoughts, in the present. Click To Tweet

But we can kill ourselves trying to deal with all three at once…A very famous Bollywood yesteryear’s song aptly says- Aage bhi jaane na tu…peeche bhi jaane na tu…Jo bhi hai “BAS YEHI EK PAL HAI”

It becomes so much easier when you know your only responsibility is dealing with the present moment…This revelation relieved me from the heavy weight of the past and the future that I was always carrying around…


3. Most of what we think is imaginary.

Man is a compulsive thinker and most of the times doesn’t differentiate between his thoughts and reality. He most of the times thinks, his thoughts are his reality and acts out of it…

Most of what we interact with.. is not the world itself, but our beliefs about it, our expectations of it, and our personal interests in it. We have a very difficult time observing something as it is without smearing it with our perspective… so the bulk of what we experience in life is imaginary.

As Mark Twain said: “I’ve been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” Click To Tweet

The only solution herein is to be Aware of the tendency of the mind to project imagination as reality.


4. We love to suffer.

Yes you read it right…We love to suffer…rather that is what we are best doing at…Previously I used to believe that if I was suffering it meant that there was something wrong with me — that I was doing  wrong or I was wronged…. Whatever I did…my mind played this on loop – “this isn’t right, I need to improve this,”… This revelation made me understand that this urge to change or escape the present moment drives nearly all of our behaviour. It’s a ruthless survival mechanism which works well for keeping us alive…Describes best why we are so hooked to mass media which mostly does nothing but glorifies suffering…Also explains why  Victim mode has become a comfort zone for most. As harsh as it sounds, this revelation is insightful because it means: 1) that suffering does not necessarily mean something is gravely wrong, 2) Since it’s a natural tendency of the human mind…the degree to which you suffer is ultimately up to you…


5. We all act out of three subconscious drivers: to fulfill our desires, to escape our suffering and both.

Understanding this allowed me to finally make sense of how people can hurt each other so badly. It also allowed me to being least judgmental and not throwing people out of my life because they hurt me… No matter what kind of behavior people exhibit, they are acting to the best of their capabilities (at the given time) to either fulfill a desire or to relieve their suffering and in some cases both. These are motives we can all mostly understand; we only vary in how we project them. These projections depend on our upbringing and our experiences in life, as well as our state of consciousness. Some people fulfill their desires, or escape their suffering skilfully without hurting others while others are crude and destructive…  Understanding this completely shook my long-held beliefs about taking things personally when someone behaved unpleasantly…


6.Change requires repetition

Repetition is the word…Man is a creature of habit…we have a strong tendency to slip towards our past thinking patterns unless we anchor our self to new thought systems through repetition…No revelation, AHA moment is going to make sense long term unless you remind yourself daily of what you have learnt…Repeat what you’ve learnt ..until it becomes autopilot for you…That is when real time changes start happening…